In a perfect feng shui world, you’ll find all five elements present in a room. This helps to keep the room feeling comfortable, harmonious and balanced – and thus making you more productive, effective, and successful.

The checklist below has some of the most common problems associated with missing or excess elements. The list will help you determine what element is out of balance and the Element List will help you balance the energies in your home correctly.

Don’t forget to look at all important rooms, such as your living room, bedroom, office, and even your garden to make sure your surroundings are in good feng shui shape.

Common Problems

__Lethargy, depression, excess weight – too little fire or too much water

__Instability, clouded thinking, hyperactivity, unhappy relationships – too little earth

__Lack of opportunity, low career growth, feeling spiritually disconnected – too little water

__Poor health, lack of growth, low vitality, family disharmony – too little wood

__Nervous exhaustion, scattered thinking, busy for busy sake, disorganized – too much metal

__Impulsiveness, anger, frustration, anxiety – too much fire

__Lack of creativity, initiative, ability to analyze – too little metal

__No fun, little enjoyment or zest for life – too little fire

__Financial problems, too many bills, too little income – too little water and/or wood

__Stuck or smothering relationships, boredom, overly serious – too little earth

Element List

_____Water Element. The water element relates to business, career, and opportunities. It also has an effect on emotions, feelings and intuition. When the water element is correctly placed, career and business function more smoothly and there is progression in the climb up the corporate ladder. Water can also help create insights, make you feel inspired and spiritually connected and refreshed.

When there is too much water, there is depression, lethargy, weight gain, and isolation. Look for dark colors, blues, black, purple and wave shapes. When there’s not enough water, add water using color or shape. You can also add water figures such as shells or figurines of fish or a real aquarium.

_____Wood Element. The wood element relates to health, growth, and advancement. It is the element that relates to the family, the feet and the oldest son. When wood is correctly placed, the family is happy, growing and health is vibrant. Too much wood can cause arguments and fiery tempers.

When wood is lacking there is little expansion, life feels stalled, stuck. The shape is rectangular, similar to the tall shape of a tree trunk. To add wood energy, use brown and green colors and rectangular shapes. Dried flowers, bonsai trees and cactus are negative wood symbols and should not be used in the house.

____ Fire Element. The element of fire is the one element that is not naturally present in the earth and has to be created. It is powerful and spreads rapidly. It can keep you warm or burn down the house. Fire represents sociability, the family name, good friends, happiness and its presence indicates the success that comes with fame or public recognition.

Too much fire energy can create a home that is overly-stimulated, nerves frayed, anger and irritability rampant, not enough rest. Too little fire creates remote feelings and a lack of ambition or vision, low self-esteem, little happiness or zest for life.

The fire element is symbolized by triangle shapes, lamps, and candles. It’s also associated with the color red. Add red colors or triangle shapes or more lighting to brighten up your home and give it a punch of color and energy! Do be careful with the fire element. Too much of it can overwhelm your space.

_____Earth Element. The earth element is an element of caring, stability and calm reserve. When earth is lacking there is a lack of focus and mental clarity. The shape is square. Earth elements help make relationships strong and enduring. Too much earth can create a home that is sluggish and ineffectual. This can manifest with low motivation and apathy.

The earth element is symbolized by square shapes, stones, ceramic and crystal elements. It’s associated with the color of ochre, beige, tan, and yellow. To boost the earth element add stone or earth-related objects and golden colors. To reduce the earth element in your home add metal objects as these exhaust the earth energy.

_____Metal Element. The metal element is an element of creativity and represents the manifestation of inward flowing movement, which includes wealth. Adding metallic objects such as Chinese coins, metallic bowls and windchimes brings more metal energy to a home. Arching, oval and round shapes are associated with the metal element. Metal energy helps bring logic, precise thinking and ability to think analytically. Ceiling fans, white colors, televisions, stereos and computers are associated with metal energy.

Too much metal can cause too much movement, speaking before thinking, and being hasty. Too little metal brings mental dullness and inability to manifest because metal is a conductor and its presence in a home helps manifest quick thought, decisiveness, and movement. When you want to activate the metal element choose gold, silver, white or gray colors. If metal is too prominent, add water colors of blue and black or water elements such as fish or fountains.

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Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information and to receive her FREE Ebook “Easy Money – 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui” visit www.redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant!

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Loving relationships are also working relationships.
That means you’ve got to make an effort. You made an effort to get into your relationship, so why stop because you got married or moved in together? Remember, that love isn’t just a “feeling,” it’s an action. So, take some steps toward building on what you’ve got. Below are some of the most frequent questions I receive about romance. It also includes some new ideas and suggestions for married or committed couples.

QUESTION: Our bedroom décor is OK. Should we really redo our bedroom?

When it comes to food, we eat with our eyes first. Attractive food, with its good blend of colors and textures is appealing, and why that little sprig of parsley does so much. Well, we also make love with our eyes first. It’s why many couples feel like they have to go away to be romantically inspired. Their environment simply isn’t appealing. I think that’s sad. Because if the only time you are getting romantically interested is when you can arrange a trip out of town, then that is way too much time spent apart.

Environment plays a crucial role in romance. I mean, really, how romantic is a bedroom with a treadmill, the dog’s bed, and mismatched curtains? Every couple’s bedroom is important and deserves attention. Make it attractive to both you and your honey.

Have you ever noticed how good spring cleaning makes you feel or how good you feel when you rearrange the furniture? Well, that’s because you are moving energy around that may have been stagnant. A stagnant relationship can also be a sign of a stagnant bedroom. You can actually reinvigorate your relationship just by redecorating or arranging your bedroom.

QUESTION: Our kids have really nice bedrooms, but we haven’t spent the time or money on ours because it seems like the whole family is always in our room. Is there something we can do about this?

Yes. Use your living or family room. You don’t have a bedroom because where you sleep is the family room. I love my kids. Don’t get me wrong. But kids are only renters. Remember, you aren’t there because they are. They are there because YOU are.

This is Rule No. 1: You and your spouse come first. That means your bedroom should also be a KFZ (Kid-Free Zone) or haven away from the kids. That means no toys, no pictures of kids, and certainly no kids in your room (unless you’ve invited them). This is your space.

We often mistakenly believe that you have to let your kids into every nook and cranny of your life and be totally absorbed in them to be good parents. I disagree. We aren’t in the kids rooms. Why should they be in ours? You must draw limits.

I’ll put it even more plainly: kids kill romance. If you don’t want romance, then keep the building blocks, stuffed animals, the How-to-use-the-toilet book with the flushing sounds in your bedroom. If you do want romance, make your space yours and your sweetie’s ALONE. Now, go and get out the decorating books!

QUESTION: What can I do if I suspect my spouse is unhappy with our relationship?

You need to bolster your relationship any way you can. Here are some thoughts:

Add a vase to make relationships happier. Place a jar or vase in the bedroom. It should be ceramic and beautiful to you. Vases can help smooth relationships by collecting good energy.

Display the double happiness sign. This sign can be purchased at Chinese or import stores as a wall hanging or as a frame. If it’s not possible to fine a double happiness symbol, find some items that are red and gold and put those in your bedroom.

Hang a crystal in a window. Rainbows of light cast by the sun hitting a crystal can cleanse a room of negative energy. These are nice to have in rooms throughout the house. To see the beautiful colors dancing on the wall is to infuse the house with positive energy. Hang crystals from a 9 inch long red string or ribbon.

Use crystal power under the bed. Place a smooth, round crystal ball at the foot of the bed to make relationships smoother. You can place one of these under the foot of every bed in the house to make all the relationships happier.

QUESTION: I’m worried that my husband is looking for love outside our relationship. Is there something I can do about?

Yes. I’ve got a couple of ideas. Plus, the last one is good for everyone to help make their marriages stronger and last longer.

Place a conch shell in your bedroom. This shell will help protect you from third-party interference when you are separated.

Check water in the front of the house. Make sure there is no water to the right as you walk out the house. This can lead to an abundance of “admirers” or predatory females.

Repaint if necessary. Peach-colored walls or carpet can lead to infidelity and to unwanted or overly-aggressive admirers. If you’ve got an excess of peach color in the house, I’d head to my DIY center and buy some paint.

Purchase a geode. If you suspect your spouse is wandering or if you just want to make your marriage last, purchase an amethyst geode. These minerals are excellent for infusing energy into a stale relationship. Be sure to select a roundish one that sparkles and that you think is beautiful. On the next rainy day, set the geode out in the rain to be washed. Afterwards, tie the geode with red ribbon and place under the bed. Occasionally, take the geode out from under the bed and set it in the rain to be cleansed.

QUESTION: My wife and I are always arguing about money. Is there something we can do in our bedroom to help our money situation?

Add amethyst power. Pour rice into a beautiful bowl and add amethyst crystals. Place this bowl under the bed. The crystals can be purchased at nature stores in many malls or at gem shows or stores.

QUESTION: Does it really matter which side of the bed we sleep on?

Yes. The woman should sleep on the right side (as you lie in bed), and the man should sleep on the left. You should also try to orient the bed or sleep with your head pointing in your marriage and family direction based on your kua number. You should also sleep using the breadwinner’s personal best directions. Click here for information on personal feng shui.

QUESTION: Do you have any ideas for Valentine’s Day that would be good feng shui?

You bet I do! You can purchase crystals for your bedroom, some of which I have talked about above. You can also purchase a rose quartz crystal to display in your bedroom next to a picture of you and your love. Here are more ideas:

Buy in pairs. Give your love a “pair” of something, whether that is earrings, a pair of monogrammed bathrobes, or a pair of lovebird figurines for your room. If you want to be practical, purchase a pair of lamps for either side of your bed.

Go pink. Pink roses are more sentimental and sweet than red roses. In fact, some think red roses can actually cause a relationship to end. If your love doesn’t like pink, select yellow or lavender roses. Also, be certain that the thorns are removed from the stems.

Buy “love” items. The stores are stocked with heart-shaped items and love tokens for the upcoming Valentine ’s Day. If you want some items to make a love shrine, purchase them now while they are readily available.

Get dim. Purchase a dimmer switch for your bedroom. For $5 you can have all kinds of mood lighting!

Frame your love. Buy a beautiful picture frame and put a picture of the two of you in it. Maybe even select a picture and have it enlarged as an extra nice touch.

Take the time to work on the feng shui of your relationship. It just might reignite your passion!

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© K Weber Communications LLC 2002-2009

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We seek out that all-perfect-soul-mate connection with that one true love. We also work to make close and unbreakable connections with our children, parents, friends, and siblings. It’s the connections that sustain us during times of trouble and when there are problems. That’s what makes every relationship — from romantic to familial — crucial. They are our lifelines in life’s stormy waters.

But what happens when relationships aren’t so smooth? Or, when unexplainable change begins to occur in relationships? That’s when it is time to look at your environment to see if there is something that could be causing friction in your dealings with those you care about. Fortunately, feng shui has a number of methods for making an environmental diagnosis of problems in relationships.

Check some of these ideas below to see if your relationships might be suffering — or if there is feng shui potential for a break-up. It’s worth looking into because we never want to see our relationships suffer, or worse, be lost altogether.

1. Is someone missing in your home?

In feng shui, the northwest is the sector of the man and the southwest is the sector of the woman. If either sector is missing, it is possible that either the man or the woman is also missing, such as being away at work all the time.

One couple had the northwest corner of the home missing and the husband was always traveling or working overtime. One they moved to a new house, the husband was at home nights and their marriage was saved.

2. Is there a toilet in the man or woman sector?

Having a toilet in either the northwest or southwest corners of your home can create problems in the relationship. Either there will be fatigue or ill health, or the man or woman will be overworked and underappreciated. If this is the case in your home, be sure to boost the southwest or northwest corner of the living room to lift the energy of the person in question.

Then, make certain that the bathrooms in these sectors have been handled appropriately (i.e., a plant in the southwest corner bathroom, or blue colors in the northwest bathroom). This will keep the negative toilet energy from impacting that person.

3. Are there problems with the whole family?

Check the east sector of the house and the east corner of the living room. The east is the sector of family relationships. If, for instance, there is a toilet in the east corner of the house, be sure to place red items in here or paint the room red. Or, you can decorate in white and metal elements. Reds and metal colors exhaust the negative energy of the toilet when it is in the east sector. If there is a fireplace, then this will exhaust the relationships maybe through frequent arguments. If you have one of these, put a picture of water over the fireplace to drown the fire that might be exhausting your family feelings.

4. If children are unhappy look west.

The west sector is the sector of the children. If there are water elements in this area, such as a shower or bathroom, it can cause problems and difficulties with the children. Increase earth elements in the home, such as by placing vases or beautiful stones in the west corner of the living room to boost the children. Likewise, you may also wish to add metal elements as well, such as metal vases or sculpture. If there is a kitchen or a fireplace, again, the water is helpful, but so are earth elements, such as globes, maps, vases, or stones.

5. Your house shape could be the culprit.

Many houses are irregularly shaped and have missing sectors. This can create problems with household members — particularly if the man or woman or children’s sectors are missing. Try to regularize the house and boost the missing sectors of your house by activating those sectors in the living room. For a missing southwest sector (romance, marital happiness, woman), northwest sector (man, breadwinner), or west sector (children, creativity) add a globe. Globes are great “anchors” for the southwest, northwest, and west sectors.

6. Check your heart — or center — sector.

The heart sector is a critical piece of the relationship puzzle in feng shui. Without a strong center sector, health, wealth, and relationships can all suffer. Many homes are built with an open center. This creates a “hole in the heart” of the home, and can cause heartbreak and divorce as well as bankruptcy. Double this if the home has a tree or plants growing in the center sector.

The center sector is an earth sector. Plants, and especially trees, destroy earth and may have played a pivotal role in the break-up of Jennifer Anniston and Brad Pitt. This was also a key element in a home that was designed by one couple. Going with a typical Spanish style home, they had a courtyard in the middle with a large fountain and big trees. This not only created a divorce, it also created bankruptcy. Although beautiful, this house was not worth the heartache it created.

© K Weber Communications LLC 2002-2009

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Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information and to receive her FREE Ebook “Easy Money – 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui” visit http://redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant!

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Interestingly, the most harmonious and beneficial pairing of wedding colors comes from the tai chi symbol of yin and yang. This is the color pairing of black and white — the foundation of wedding colors (black tuxedo for the man, white dress for the woman). What is important to know, though, is that black is yin (female) and white is yang (male). This is why, when a man wears a black tux, his male energy is harmonized and balanced with the female color, and when the bride wears white, her female energy is balanced with male energy of the white (yang) color.

Of course, few brides and grooms venture far from the black and white tradition. Where the color choices go awry is in the supporting colors, such as those of the bridesmaids, flowers, reception table cloths, and so on.

Bearing in mind that feng shui is often referred to as a method for creating harmony. Harmony – in feng shui – means that colors, elements, shapes, and numbers are all supportive and beneficial for one another. On such an important day as the uniting of a couple, adding auspicious colors will help give your day a harmonious — and auspicious — start.

COLOR CHOICES CAN CREATE GOOD OR BAD LUCK

Color combinations that create bad luck:
• Greens and metallic colors (white, silver, gray, gold)
• Red and blue
• Black and red
• Green and yellow
• Yellow and blue
• Red and metallic. Metallic colors such as white, silver, gray, or gold metals are especially bad when they’re paired with red.

Color combinations that create good luck:
• A yang color (i.e. red) with its yin version (i.e. pink) are always good, safe choices. Others include: dark blue/light blue, purple/lavender, dark green/light green.
• Red and green (great for Christmas weddings)
• Yellow and red (The perfect feng shui pairing for harmony, good social standing, and wealth)
• Metallic colors (white, silver, gray, gold) with yellow
• Greens with blues are perfect together
• Blues with metal colors (white, silver, gray, gold) are well-suited for each other.

What do the colors mean?

Reds and gold/yellow/beige: Harmony and prosperity, good luck and happiness
Black and white: male and female, harmony
Green and purples (can be lavenders or light purple): Growth, longevity and wealth
Metal colors: Creativity/children
Yellow and white: Heaven and earth
Green and blue: Growth
Red and green: Happy luck and success
Black and green: Wealth and growth and longevity
Especially auspicious colors: gold & purple (great wealth), silver & purple (great wealth), green & purple (great abundance), purple & white, purple & black (career and financial success)

© K Weber Communications LLC 2002-2009

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Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information and to receive her FREE Ebook “Easy Money – 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui” visit http://redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant!

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A good place to start is where it all starts: the bedroom. Feng shui has stringent rules regarding bedrooms. And, fortunately, these rules are designed with romance in mind. So, take a look around and see if there isn’t something that can be done to your bedroom to make it more appealing — and so that you’ll want to spend more time there!

1. Look around.
Is your bedroom a gender-neutral bedroom design that appeals to the both of you? Remember, men traditionally don’t like floral designs and if your bedroom is flowery, then your man could be experiencing resentment every time he enters the room. Likewise, if you’ve yielded to your man’s furnishing taste you, too, may also grow resentful.

What to do? Well, start from scratch, and if you can, clear out everything from the room (just like they do on those room makeovers on HGTV). Then look at the paint, drapes, carpet, etc. to see if these need changing. A good starting point is to look at the walls. If you are considering painting, select a restful, neutral color, such as those of the color of skin, i.e., beige, taupe, brown, or rose.

If possible, replace loud, flowery, or overly-austere furnishings with ones that are comfortable and make for a serene environment. And for those of you going to bed every night in those awe-inspiring white walls: did you know that the Chinese equate the color white with death? Now there’s a romance-killer! Get out the paint buckets quick!

2. The bed is where it’s at.
Just like real estate, when it comes to the bed, it’s all about location, location, location. Make sure the bed is at the widest part of the room and the door to the room can be seen from the bed. This is a critical feng shui element.

Bed placement is extremely important especially if the bed is placed on the same wall as the bedroom door. This will bring serious disagreements for the couple. The bed should also not face a bathroom, see a toilet, share the same wall as a toilet, or be directly opposite a door. It’s also best if the bed doesn’t face a closet or bookshelves of some kind.

Also, be sure to give yourself some support. Beds that have the headboard to a window give the couple little support. If this is the best (or only) position for the bed, place a wooden screen between the bed and the window to simulate a wall or hang heavy drapes that can be closed at night.

And when it comes to your bed, it is always a good idea to have a bed that belongs only to you and your mate. Beds used in previous relationships bring those former relationships into your love life. If this is your situation, but you hate to get rid of a perfectly good bed, then donate it to a charity. Take the write-off and then buy yourself a new bed and mattress and give it to yourselves as an anniversary present.

Remember, in your house, the bed is the No. 1 symbol of your union. Make it a nice one with luxurious pillows and comforters or spreads. Lastly, don’t go out without making your bed. Really, now, how hard is it to make a bed? Do it together. After all, how romantic is an unmade bed? The appeal of the bed is tearing back the covers, now isn’t it?

3. Look Up.
Got a ceiling fan whirring above your bed? Lots of us do. This could be cooling you down… literally and romantically! Ceiling fans above the bed disrupt your body’s chi (energy) — and your romantic chi. Rather than rip the fan out of the ceiling (unless you want to), try placing red dots on each fan blade. You also might avoid turning on the fan for a week and see what happens… who knows?

4. Look down.
Do you have all kinds of junk stashed under your bed? Maybe you have dust-bunnies the size of Dallas lurking under there. Clear it out and place a crystal sphere at the foot of the bed. These are believed to enhance relationships. Or, if you have an amethyst geode, place it at the foot of the bed. These are also believed to be marriage enhancers. Get the spheres at design stores, and get geodes at nature stores, gem shops, or gem and mineral shows.

5. Look away… from the TV, that is.
When it comes to building your romance feng shui, TV in the bedroom becomes just that: TV in the bedroom — and nothing else.

Television is a distraction to romance and it takes away from a room’s restful qualities because when it’s turned off, the TV acts like a mirror, reflecting you and your sweetie in bed.

This disrupts your chi and can even cause insomnia. Still not convinced? Experts on insomnia also recommend that TV’s stay out of the bedroom because it sends a signal to the occupant(s) that this place is only for rest.

Remember, when it comes to your romantic bedroom, you should only be using it for R&R: rest and romance. Watch television in your family or living room only.

But be warned: If you take the TV out of the bedroom he’ll fight, he’ll cry, he’ll wail and gnash his teeth, but stand firm, and tell him you only want two things turned on in the bedroom: you and him. Now, if that’s not a convincing argument, I don’t know what is!

6. Change your sheets.
But you already knew that, didn’t you? But did you also know that, just like the bed, if the sheets on the bed are brought to the marriage from a previous relationship, or worse, a divorce, that the old energy lingers here? Yuck. Used or inherited linens should also not be used on the bed.

Adorn your bed only with new sheets and keep them reserved only for yourselves. Feng shui teachers say that pink sheets are the best choice because they have the “fire” from the color red but are in a more sentimental shade of red.

If you’ve got old sheets on the bed that are torn and tattered, what does it say about the emphasis you place on your romantic life? Treat yourself to some nice linens that feel wonderful and MAKE you want to hop into bed!

7. Remove mirrors.
Mirrors placed across from the bed or that can be seen from the bed can “divide” the couple and create insomnia. Mirrors should be kept in the bathroom or hallway and out of the bedroom.

Most of the time, you can use mirrors from dressers in other locations in the house. How about above the fireplace or down a long hallway? Both of these places can benefit from a mirror, so why not relegate the mirror to an area where it can be helpful instead of hurtful?

8. Decorate sparingly.
Decorating the room correctly is important. Look at all the elements here to get more ideas about appropriate decorating for your romantic retreat.

Plants, water, and flowers: Take all plants, flowers, and water features out of the bedroom. The Chinese say that “rice sticks together when it is warm,” imparting the wisdom of keeping the bedroom romantic.

Water and plants can drown the energy in a couple’s bedroom. Even pictures featuring water, ice, or snow are poor bedroom decorating choices. Flowers give off too much male energy, also making a poor choice for a restful bedroom. Dried flowers should be removed as they are dead energy.

Artwork and pictures: Does yours inspire passion or love? What do the items on your dresser or the art on your wall say about your love life? Hopefully, you don’t have one of those pictures of dogs playing poker.

Now, if there is one place for erotic art, this is it. Tasteful nudes or statues of “The Kiss” are perfect here. Take an extra critical look at what’s hanging above your bed. Is it inspiring? Bet you never gave your bedroom this much thought, ever!

Consider other objects de amour in your room. Wherever possible, use pairs of objects. Two lovebirds, two vases, etc., are a good idea. Try matching prints for the bedroom or two photos of the both of you, one on each of your bedside tables. And while you’re at it, take a close look at the pictures in your bedroom.

Are there photographs of your children, your grandparents, friends, or others in the bedroom? If so, these pictures are symbolically looking at you! Remove all pictures of people except for those of you and your love. Placing your wedding picture here or any other happy, romantic picture that you like. It will be a nice reminder in your shared space that the two of you are a couple.

Work, work, work: By all means, eliminate “work” objects. These can be treadmills or other exercise equipment, desks, computers, bookshelves filled with work-related books, or objects that remind either of you of something to do. Even hobbies and projects are not good choices for your love nest.

Know what else is a romance killer? Clutter. It reminds us of work. Can you imagine what, if any, romance was going on in this room! Remember, hotel rooms make us instantly relaxed when we walk in because they are spare.

9. Houston, we have a problem.
Is your room is good working order? Is the carpet coming up or do the windows stick? Your room must function well on all levels. This includes making sure the door opens and closes correctly – and locks, too! Oil creaky door hinges.

Privacy is also important for couples. Having a lock – and using it, too – sends a strong signal that your romantic life is important, yours alone, and private. This also means making sure you have privacy measures, too. Blinds or other curtains to cover the windows should be working… and used.

10. Create your own love shrine.
Put a picture of the two of you, a dish with a rose quartz crystal or clear quartz crystal, a heart figurine, a candle, or a small lamp in the southwest corner of your bedroom. Dedicate this area for this purpose. Keep the lamp turned on at least 3 hours each day so that it can shine on the crystal.

Place mementos in a box here, or anything that is very personal and significant to the two of you. Place a CD or tape player with music you both love here so you play it when you are alone together in the room. You can put anything here that is romantic and makes you think of love. Try to decide on items together, selecting the things that are meaningful, and inspiring, for you both.

© K Weber Communications LLC 2002-2009
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Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information and to receive her FREE Ebook “Easy Money – 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui” visit http://redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant!

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Regardless of whether you are single or in a relationship, everyone benefits when attention is paid to those we love, or want to love. Our relationships are a key component to our personal happiness and having loving relationships make us feel fulfilled. Having someone to love, whether that is a friend or a spouse is also central to our sense of well-being. Having a committed, devoted love, though, is what most people strive for.

Feng shui is a great tool for creating opportunities for love. That’s because feng shui opens the way for love to enter your life. Whether that love is for a lifetime or whether this love is your soul mate depends a lot on your “heaven luck,” or karma. However, feng shui can bring you the “opportunity” for love and this is what everyone wants – at least the opportunity to find that perfect match. What if you are already in a relationship? The good news is that you can still use feng shui to help you strengthen your love ties with your spouse or partner.

Don’t let this February get past without making it your month for love! Go all out for those hearts and flowers and see what happens! Oh, and be sure to tap the 15th night full moon of the Chinese New Year to tap into your own love luck.

1. Light the way for love on the night of a full moon.
Purchase a low ceramic or glass bowl (red is best). Fill this with stones, such as amethyst, citrine, quartz, or glass beads. Keep in mind that stones with purple, yellow, red, and white colors are best. Place three red or pink candles in the bowl. Light the candles on the night of full moon to bring love to you or to make your love light burn brighter. You can do this on the full moon of any month.

2. Blow bubbles of love at the full moon.
Blow bubbles under the full moon and with them your wishes for a mate.

3. Release a yellow love balloon on the night of a full moon.
Write your lover’s name and your love wishes on a yellow balloon on the night of a full moon. Write your wishes in red ink and release to the moon.

4. Send flowers according to the maturity and state of your love.
Serious, committed, or married love: Send red or yellow flowers. These show the passion, steadfastness, seriousness and depth of the relationship.
Looking to marry: Send yellow flowers. These show serious intention, and the yellow color brings the kind of mother earth luck that solidifies relationships.
Wanting to start a relationship: Send pink flowers. These show sentimental intention that won’t overpower a relationship that is just beginning. It will cause the recipient to have sweet and tender feelings for the sender. Trying to revive a relationship? Pink is the color to send.
Note: if you send roses, be sure thorns are removed or these could damage the relationship.

5. Get goosey with the noncommittal types.
Geese symbolize lifelong love. Purchase and place a pair of decorative geese, the type of geese that are placed in the yard, in the SW corner of the garden for long-lasting love. For lovers who won’t commit, hang pictures of geese in his/her bedroom to help cement the bond and make the commitment.

6. Buy crystal hearts.
If you’re looking for love, buy a crystal heart and put it on a red cloth. Put this in the SW corner of your desk or in your bedroom. Do this regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. If you are in one, it will help enhance your relationship. If you aren’t, it will help bring you one!

7. Missing the SW corner of your house?
Place a big boulder or cement object here to create the missing earth energy. Maybe THAT’s why your relationship has been troubled?

8. Create a “Love Garden.”
Outdoors, this would include pairs of plants that bloom with red, pink, or yellow flowers. Be sure to intersperse them with stones or boulders. Add a Kwan Yin statue, if you like. Lights on the SW part of the garden are extra beneficial!

9. Living alone? Get the benefit of “Big Earth.”
The relationship sector is symbolized by “big earth.” If you live alone and want to enjoy relationship luck, put a picture of a mountain, or a mound of stones, or a large geode in your living room to give you “big earth” luck. This will help solidify and keep relationship luck from getting away.

10. Singles: Make sure you have Sun or Moon energy.
For men who live alone, make sure there is feminine energy in the house. Hang a picture of the moon or a woman in a prominent place, such as the bedroom or living room. Women, if you live alone, make sure the house doesn’t get too girlie or too yin! You need the manly yang energy to draw a man to you. Hang a picture of the sun in the house and make sure there is plenty of light in the house.

11. Keep the heartfires burning.
Keep a light on in the SW corners/sector to keep your relationship warm or to draw love to you.

© K Weber Communications LLC 2002-2009
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Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information and to receive her FREE Ebook “Easy Money – 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui” visit http://redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant!

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Our relationships make us happiest when they’re in balance. That’s when we can offer our love and friendship and assistance and when we can also expect to receive it in return. The problems begin when relationships are out of balance. Many times relationships are characterized by either giving or taking -and with one person doing all of one or the other. Sometimes your relationships are fine, but you have outgrown the person or have little in common with them.

So much of our personal growth and happiness is tied to others. And, not all relationships are supportive of either your growth or happiness. Give some thought to the relationships in your life and to the ones that keep you from moving forward or make you feel stuck and frustrated. See if you recognize any of these people and if they’re in your life. Then, use the ideas that follow to help you move ahead in your relationships, in your happiness, and in your growth.

“TTT” Person
This is a person who firmly believes that it Takes Two to Tango. In other words, while this person may start an argument or create a problem, they always “include” someone else in it and share the blame. It might take two to tango but it only takes one person to trip the other dancer. Sometimes the problem rests with one person and if you’re constantly getting tripped it might be time for a new partner.

The PAD
The “pad” is short for “Passive Aggressive Drain.” People who are passive aggressive are like a leech that drains blood, only this person will drain the life force from you. This is the person who makes you call, you speak first, you have to ask questions to get any information and it’s work just being with them. These friends are famous for withholding information, emotions and keeping you guessing. In short, you’re doing the tap dancing while they sit and watch. A classic response is when you share some great news and they say….nothing. These folks are really hard on us. There’s only one thing that gets through: retreat.

The Poor Learner
This friend makes the same mistakes over and over again and keeps coming back to you for a shoulder to cry on. This person rarely “gets his act together” and definitely doesn’t grow. This person is addicted to his or her drama or whatever it is that their problems do for them. Otherwise, if they weren’t getting high off the drama/pity/anger or other emotion, why wouldn’t they learn? It’s hard to continue to be supportive of this person and over time they drain you of sympathy – and patience.

The Taker
We see these people everywhere in life. They can range from friends to coworkers to clients. They always want what they can get from you and rarely offer anything back. If you’re always looking for ways to get something out of someone or something, make a point to start giving. If you’re the one always doing the giving, then close up shop and stop giving away the free samples. People will take advantage of us as much as we let them.

These are just some of the common relationship types and these people may be our children, our spouses, coworkers or friends or some combination. Regardless of the relationship, it’s important that you either move on or change your response to them. We keep ourselves in a cycle when we continually respond the same way. And although the relationships may still be around, they will change when you respond to them differently.

We must understand that relationships are often the linchpins of our unhappiness and that they keep us tethered to unhappy circumstances. Too often we believe that removing relationships amounts to “throwing away” our friends and family. This is not true. But, we can limit our interactions, come to truthful conclusions about our happiness and our relationships, and we can choose to move ahead in our own lives by moving past some relationships.

When we allow this to happen we often fill the void with an improved relationship or with a new relationship with another person that’s better for – and to – us. And, then our lives can get growing again.
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