By Kathryn Weber
We’ve all had them – good and bad neighbors. They’re either the types that borrow everything and return nothing. Or, they’re the kind that show up with a plate of cookies when you move in. Then there are the neighbors who you never know because they keep to themselves.
The better neighbors and the neighbors you don’t know are rarely the source of our unhappiness at home, though. It’s the neighbors who have a yapping dog or whose teenagers bounce a basketball until one in the morning that drive us wild.
One client and her husband were at wits end about some neighbors who were hostile on one side and who collected junk cars on another.
They wanted a strong and powerful cure.
Although I don’t recommend this, I did relay information about how the Chinese in places such as Hong Kong have been known to go to drastic measures when the energy from a neighboring building threatens their businesses and livelihoods.
In some instances, I have seen canons placed on top of buildings and at entrances to businesses that are opposed by negative forces. The strength of the firing canon symbolically destroys the opposing force from harsh edges and other strong poison arrows.
In these cases, the energy being emitted was killing energy – the kind that can lead to bankruptcy or serious illness. I suggested using mirrors, but unbeknownst to me, this client bought a tiny canon and aimed it at the neighbors’ houses. Within a short period of time, both neighbors moved on. Obviously, this is an extreme example.
Feng shui is rarely needed for the neighbors we like, but it can be a place of refuge when you have troublesome neighbors.
So how do you handle negative neighbors with feng shui? It depends on the situation.
Sometimes it’s just a case of annoyances such as kids screaming or a lawn mower starting early on a Saturday morning. Others are more serious and pose a threat. When there is serious negative energy emanating toward you from your neighbors, it pays to give more attention to your feng shui.
Here are some problems that are more common – and the feng shui remedies to help create good will in your neighborhood or where you live.
When you live in an apartment, you’re closer to your neighbors and it’s easier for them to get on your nerves. If the problem is from a neighbor who is directly across from you, try placing a small mirror on your door to reflect the neighbor, and the neighbor’s negative energy.
If the problem is with the neighbor on the right (as you look OUT the door), hang a metal 6-rod hollow rod windchime on this side. This will lift the negativity away. If the neighbor is on the left of you, place an image of a dragon on the left or place a lush, healthy plant on the left side of the door.
Light cure for troublesome neighbors. Light is an effective way to stop a situation of nighttime annoyances. One client had a problem with boys gathering in the driveway and playing basketball until the early morning hours on the side where she slept. I recommended that she place a motion detecting spotlight on this side of the house that would shine very brightly at the boys. She installed one and within a few days the basketball stopped.
Likewise, if your neighbor’s dog barks all night, shining a bright light at the house might help stop the barking (or try one of those low frequency sound boxes that stop dogs from barking…it helped my Pomeranian problem — and I have the Pomeranian!).
Yin water method for gossip and bad feelings. If you’re troubled by gossip and hostility, add a large mouthed basin of water between you and your neighbor. The water will help to absorb the negativity and soften relations between you and your neighbor. Combine the water with a mirror for an even more effective way of handling tensions and ill will.
Bells and windchimes transform gossip and negativity. To create better energy from the harsh corner of a neighbor’s home or malicious gossip, try hanging tinkling bells. You can also place a 6-rod hollow windchime to help transform the negative energy.
Color method for bad energy. White is a very yang color and can help to transform neighborly attitudes more friendly and amiable. By painting your home white, you will emit strong yang heavenly energy outwards and make it more difficult for negative energy to be bothersome to you at home. This has worked for homes even situated next to cemeteries.
Happy method to lift spirits. If your neighbors are unhappy and unpleasant, try placing happy items like rainbow-colored windsocks, whirligigs or anything brightly colored, like this rainbow pi yao hanger or a set of six crystal balls. Planting pretty flowers and bushes and painting a fence with happy images can help to lift the unpleasant mood of your neighbor.
A note on feng shui pa kua mirrors. Many people employ these mirrors to stop neighbors from annoying them. However, these kinds of mirrors emit very strong and harsh energy and should never be aimed at anyone or anything. There are other ways to remedy the situation without sending dangerous energy toward your neighbors. If you own and display one of these, be sure to get rid of it as the energy can come back to harm you.
Copyright, Kathryn Weber.