By Kathryn Weber
There are times in life when it seems like all the odds are stacked against you. The world may feel like it’s turned its back on you, or that whatever you touch doesn’t work out. Maybe things keep breaking or relationships are challenging you at every turn. Sometimes something we don’t expect happens: an accident, a serious disease, or a natural disaster.
Whatever the cause, when the bad luck of your life seems to stack up like cars in rush hour it’s hard not to feel desperation creeping in.
This happens to everyone at one time or another. But there are some people who stay trapped in the circumstances like a someone unable to move when they’re being electrocuted. This is because their personal energy is trapped.
What causes one person to be able to move past difficulties and others to stay stuck in them? Below are some of the key causes that can keep your personal energy seemingly stuck in difficult circumstances or personal difficulties – and how you can change your chi.
PERSONAL CHI TRAPS
Desperation and despair.
This type of energy is one that can lead to hopelessness or desperate behavior. The desperate person often seeks a solution that is outside of them. Feng shui works best when you combine your efforts in your life (searching for a job) with your feng shui (activating your career sector).
When the desperate person reaches for something outside themselves first, they may find that feng shui doesn’t support them. Energy doesn’t seem to move or it remains stuck and situations continue a negative progression. The solution? Try to reach a neutral emotional state.
The complaining trap.
Difficult circumstances can sometimes cause us to become blind to a way out. We may look for unique or alternative ways to improve our luck or circumstances, like through feng shui, and complain when it doesn’t work. But you have to ask yourself if you’ve done what you really needed to do to make your feng shui work.
A good example is when I was trying to sell a house, I complained about the limited number of showings, though I knew I needed to move a large piece of furniture from the house to help move the energy that would help our house sell. However, moving that piece of furniture wasn’t what I wanted to do, it was a lot of work and expense to move a giant china cabinet, but I knew it was the thing that had to be done to get our house sold and start moving.
And I found myself enjoying the move being “outside of my control.”
Yes, even though we say we want something, we often don’t want the responsibility of it. So we complain.
Finally, tired of complaining, I moved the china cabinet and the house sold within days and with multiple offers over asking price. And even if you don’t complain out loud, are you going over and over in your mind with negative statements?
The truth is I wanted to sell my house, but I didn’t want to move a piece of furniture before the house sold. I also didn’t want to go through the hardship of moving. This is the trap. Often what we complain about is the thing we have to take responsibility for, or it’s something that inconveniences us, or causes short-term discomfort.
But complaining, even while applying feng shui to your home, stops the flow of energy to change the situation you say you want to be out of. Feng shui has to be applied to your mind and your home.
The worry circle.
There is another type of personal energy that stops your feng shui progress, and that’s worry. Being worried about something somehow seems noble to many people as if your level of concern is greater, making you appear more sympathetic or empathetic, and you might even feel that worry is productive. It’s easy to turn your worry into a replacement for action and productivity. Being forever worried or anxious keeps you stuck in a loop. The only antidote for worry is action.
It sounds counterintuitive, but there are some people who love their problems. They enjoy their suffering and love to count the ways that they endure their difficulties. They may make a great point about all they endure, and like pulling petals on daisies, love to count their hardships.
Before you can move on from a problem, you have to ask yourself honestly if there is some part of you that is enjoying your hardship. Is it keeping you stuck or is it removing personal responsibility for creating what you do want from your life? Do you keep up the same habits but complain about your circumstances?
This is a recipe for a life that rewards you based on pity. Pity is a powerful drug that can cut off opportunity, personal growth and advancement, and suck the joy out of life until it looks like a daisy with all the petals torn off. Admitting that you enjoy pity or the worry of others and that it feels good, gives you the option to decide if this is a healthy way to live or the way you intended to live – and change it if not.
Living in fear.
This is akin to waiting for the other shoe to drop. When you live in fear you are always in the waiting place for the next problem even when you don’t feel afraid. This dams your personal energy and keeps you in circumstances that dress themselves up differently, yet replay over and over again.
Feng shui is about flow and movement. Fear is about stuck and stagnant.
Fear keeps us frozen by keeping us in paralyzing situations that we feel we can’t move on from. Sometimes you have to stay in circumstances, like a job or a relationship that depletes you because of the reality of children, house payments or…. eating. But that doesn’t mean you can’t grow out of the situation and move on from it.
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