by Kathryn Weber
This is Part II of the article Feng Shui and Personal Chi Traps
When life is frustrating and it seems like we can’t break out of a pattern of frustrations and problems, the energy that needs to change in our life is our personal energy. Feng shui has an amazing ability to provide opportunities and shifts in your life when you work with it, but if you are stuck in a personal energy trap, you may find that when the opportunities do come along, you may let them go by, not follow up, or that you fail to take advantage of what is presented to you.
That’s why it’s so important that we look at both our personal energy as well as the energy of our homes in feng shui.
When we have competing energies, there is a lack of harmony, and harmony is the basis of feng shui. By harmonizing our minds, personal actions and efforts, and feng shui in our homes, we multiply chi and that energy creates true shifts in our lives.
Part one of this article talked about personal chi traps, such as fear, worrying, and complaining.
These are all personal chi traps that keep us stuck even when we work on our feng shui in our homes (and wonder why it’s not working). The second part of this article is aimed at helping you break free from those traps, harmonizing your mind with your home’s feng shui, to create a chi that is strong, free-flowing and that helps you grow and advance.
PERSONAL CHI ENERGIZERS
Intention and awareness.
Creating an intention to solve a problem is a key part of getting past it. Determination at working on what’s not working in your life begins in your mind first. Your intention has to be that you will resolve the issue irrespective of how you will accomplish it. This is critical to helping energy flow in a way that helps you create situations and bring opportunities that get you out of circumstances that make you unhappy.
Too often, though, the how of getting out of a situation is often what keeps people stuck in it.
They can’t see how they are going to change it, or it’s not obvious, so there is doubt, and when there is doubt, there is desperation. Trust that you are going to make a change and that energy will move the way you need it to bring solutions to you even when you don’t know how it will do that or what those solutions will look like.
Decision making and claiming.
There are times when you must decide – or claim — for yourself that things will change. This is usually not a claim that you make for yourself but for the circumstances that you find yourself in, sometimes time and time again.
It may be that you have to decide that no matter how it is you have gotten yourself to where you are, that you have decided that you’ve had enough and you are ready to claim a different way of living, being, and acting.
When circumstances are difficult, avoid complaining about it, ruminating, and worrying. Avoid letting despair and negative emotions from swallowing you. Instead, put your mental focus and self-talk firmly on the steps you are taking and the outcome you desire.
Use the power of 1.
Taking a single step or action and committing to it is powerful. Many times when we have a problem, there really is only one right solution. We typically know what it is, like my packing up and moving a full china cabinet before I sold my house. You know in your heart what the answer is and what the step is you need to take. Now, just take that one step.
It’s you, not me.
When the problem is always outside of you, the solution is too. Why do the same things keep happening to me? Because I have chosen to see the problem, and often times, all problems, as outside myself. It’s like the wife staying with the abusive husband. Who is the problem? Who is the solution?
We have to be our own solutions in every circumstance.
That may mean changing our thinking, our reactions and responses. When you apply your mind and thought, you change your chi. But your thinking must be accompanied by your actions. We can’t just think our way out of problems; we have to act our way out of them.
Confidence vs. courage.
It’s important that you believe in yourself. Doing that requires you take action on your behalf. You may even stop yourself from taking action because you don’t have confidence in yourself.
You may believe that you can’t take certain steps, be a certain way, or take action until you have confidence. You may even wait for the confidence, like a city bus, to show up on a street corner, before you act.
What you lack is not confidence, it’s courage. Have courage to take action on your behalf, and you will build your confidence. Confidence is something that’s cultivated, not given, bestowed, or inherited.
Go for growth.
In feng shui, moving energy with feng shui is a way to improve your life. You do this by applying feng shui to your home, bedroom and office. You need to apply it to yourself as well. Maybe you’ve gotten into a pattern of oversleeping, overspending, or other patterns of behavior that are self-defeating.
One quick way to shake up your energy is to change your look.
Seeing something different in the mirror is helpful for seeing something different in your life. If you don’t dress nicely for work, polish your image. Do something different for yourself, such as a new hairstyle or color. See yourself differently and then see what changes in your life.
Create a new image for yourself.
What is the image of you? Do you have a picture of yourself or a painting that represents you? If not, find one that represents the ideal you. Leave this image where you can see it frequently. This can be an image of what you aspire to, or an image that gives you a certain feeling.
I have an oil painting in a beautiful gold frame that I bought when I was fourteen years old that I have always loved. It shows a little girl standing and looking out over an ocean scene. The colors are bright and pastel-colored, she’s wearing shorts and a hat like she’s enjoying a lovely day at the beach.
I’ve owned this painting now for 42 years. It represents the way I want to feel inside – like a little girl on a summer’s day at the beach. Happy and content. Find your image that depicts how you want to live, feel, look like, or that represents your perfectness.