By Kathryn Weber
When Napoleon Hill wrote “Think and Grow Rich” he concluded that a very important aspect in the process of gaining wealth was tied to sex. He said that “The emotion of sex contains the secret of creative ability.”
This “seat of power” and the ability to create is uniquely tied to feng shui, too. What’s especially interesting about sex and money in feng shui is that the wealth sector is also associated with the number four.
Four is also the number associated with romance and sex, academic achievement, sales, and writing. So, you could say that the number four is associated with creation and generation, too. Obviously, the number two is very important as well.
There are two parts to love, just as there are two parts to money — income/generating money (salary/income) and accumulating money (wealth). In love there is the commitment and romance aspect (southwest) and there is the sexual aspect (southeast).
Sex and assets are closely linked.
The problem with sex is that as you age, sexual activity lessens and not just because of lack of interest, although that certainly does happen, but because fatigue, work, stress, child-rearing and household duties get in the way. Everyday demands of living can often sap our enthusiasm.
Feng shui teaches that energy flows where energy goes. A German study confirms this. In a study of 32,000 couples, many who stopped having sex reported that the trend of little or no sex only became worse. In other words, less sex leads to even less or no sex.
Sex is good — and we need it
Making love makes us happy and content, relieves physical tension in all parts of the body (not just you-know-where) and is an important part of a committed relationship.
Think about making love with your partner and think about how it feels to have a wad cash. Both make you smile. See the link? Interestingly, some of the times that I have been the most cash-strapped I also had less love, and when the money was good so was the canoodling.
But is all sex good? No.
The committed, loving type is what we’re after. This is the basis of good feng shui and good love – and is where the money-making potential resides. Promiscuity never makes you feel better, and it usually makes you feel worse.
What if you’re lacking a partner? Rather than going trolling in a trench coat to bars and taking the walk of shame in the morning that makes you feel terrible (and takes your money-making energy with it), make a romantic date with yourself. Instead, treat yourself to some luxurious lingerie, nice sheets, scented candle, read a romance novel or watch a romantic move with some wine. Just… treat yourself nice. You’ll love yourself for it. In short, be a romantic person no matter whether you are single or in a relationship.
Love and money
Love and money are often tied together. In fact, studies have shown that sex and money are the two things couples fight most about. What’s certain, too, is that when money is tight, romance often suffers. When we feel successful financially, we feel sexy and desirable. Making money and making love always feel better when there’s an abundance of both.
Couples with money troubles often find that their mood becomes tense and argumentative, and nothing can prevent closeness and love like two tense partners. When money is good, by contrast, you feel creative and “in the flow,” and that can stoke your love fires — and keep them burning. Having a good income and orderly finances can also help keep your relationship close and the intimate bonds unbreakable.
If you do have a partner and your love life needs a jump start, follow this checklist to improve your love life and start the creative flow in the bedroom — and in your pocketbook!
___Schedule sex each week. That’s right, put it on the calendar. Rather than lacking spontaneity, scheduling intimate time together means that your love is important. Honor your creative and generating abilities – and your partnership – by making time for sex and romance.
___Have fun. Try a game, go “parking” in the garage, do a strip-tease. Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, but don’t hide under the covers either! Fun is good feng shui.
___Seek sensuality. Being sensual and romantic is extremely beneficial for a relationship rather than cheap, nasty, and wham-bam (well, unless that’s what you need). Get some great-feeling new sheets for your bed. Buy a soft and nubby throw for the bed or maybe one of those awesome fur throws. Get your skin used to being feeling wonderful textures. Get a body polish (my favorite!) at your local spa and a massage afterwards. Your skin will feel like silk – to you and to your honey.
___Got hormones? OK, girls: let’s face it, the angry, witchy woman is nobody’s friend and will scare off even the most desperate lover. If you would rather clean your toenails than have sex, something is wrong. Get to your GYN and get some hormones or some help — you don’t have to retire to a convent because your libido is low.
___Hold your horses. OK, guys: let’s face it, you’re always ready no matter what. Well, women aren’t. If you’re a guy and you’re reading this, I’m going to tell you what your sweetie won’t. No woman likes to show interest and then you go from 0 to 120 MPH in an instant. Slow down, talk to her, touch her and then see what happens.
___Make a date for sex. Sounds boring, right? Well, make a date for the bedroom and do anything but have sex. I guarantee you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other. Works like a charm and gets everybody fired up.
Revitalizing love with feng shui
___Remove pictures of everyone except the couple in the room – especially the kids
___Remove all work objects (computers, phones, piles of paper)
___Make the bed. Every day. Nothing looks as unappealing — or as unsexy — as an unmade bed
___Make sure your bed is up to the task and doesn’t squeak, creak, or feel like it will break with a little activity
___Remove religious objects from the bedroom — they can make you feel guilty. Place these elsewhere
___Get rid of any and all plants or flowers – these drain romance
___Sleep in the correct position. As you are in bed, the woman is on the right and the man is on the left
___Have two bedside tables with matching lamps. You need bedroom parity for both partners.