There are few urges as strong as the parenting urge to want to see our children do well in life. Unfortunately, with the strong pull of media and social pressures, it’s easy to lose your way as a parent and succumb to those pressures.
The key to raising healthy, filial, and successful children is the same goal of feng shui: creating balance. If the child’s room is a shrine to electronics, then is it any surprise the child is more concerned with electronics and video games than people, more interested in being entertained than being inquisitive or creative — or studious?
Take a good look at your child and where their interests are, determine how you can guide them toward more positive choices and create an environment in their bedroom that supports those goals and helps them make those choices.
Children think they know what’s best for them, but as a parent it’s our job to know what’s best and to make those choices for our child to ensure their health, intellectual and social development. Feng shui provides some great parenting guidelines that can help you make choices that aren’t just good decisions, but are also good parenting with the child’s highest good at their core.
Help your child balance their lives for greater success with these feng shui guidelines designed to help parents.
1. Support strong study habits. Make sure there’s a desk in the child’s bedroom and the desk area is set up to encourage school work. Be sure to include a framed map or globe, and plenty of clear desk space. Create a study area that makes your child want to work here and provide theme with desk accessories so study time feels “professional.”
2. Encourage your child’s creativity. Make a play, crafts and reading area in the child’s bedroom to encourage ingenuity, inventiveness, and creativity. Supply the area with paper, paints, markers, play clay, and assembly toys such as Legos and Lincoln Logs. Then, give them free time to spend there!
3. Make your child feel secure. Parents often have pictures of their children in their bedroom, but rarely are there pictures of mom and dad in the child’s room. Give your children security and show your parental love by placing a smiling picture of you in the bedroom.
4. Give them plenty of good rest and sleep. Children need rest to grow and for healthy immune systems. Studies show children with adequate rest do better in school and have better health. According to the American Psychological Association, 60% of children are tired at school and 69% have sleep interruptions. Don’t allow TV and videogames in your child’s room as these are too stimulating for adequate rest.
5. Establish routines. Regular bath, meal, and bedtimes give children security and constancy in an ever-changing and unstable world. This works from newborns to teens. Patterns of behavior that children can rely on, from regular meal times and bedtimes create security and help them to create good patterns for themselves, such as play and study times.
6. Place the child’s bed properly. Always place the bed on the wall opposite the door. Bed placement is important for creating a sense of security when the child is most vulnerable – while they sleep. Do not place the bed in line with the door or on the same wall as the door. This creates a vulnerable feeling for the child. Avoid placing the bed against a wall where there is a bathroom, sink, toilet, or tub. This can create health disturbances.
7. Avoid water themes in the bedroom. Water, whether it’s a mural on a wall, dark blue ocean themes, or an aquarium, too much water is bad feng shui in a bedroom. Watery themes and elements in children’s bedrooms can lead to asthma, respiratory ailments, and depression.
8. Children need space. Whether it’s space in the bedroom or space in their schedule, allow children the luxury of having a room that isn’t stuffed to capacity and a schedule that allows free time to relax and/or play and time with family. Too many children are overburdened with material items and activities making them exhausted, depressed, unresponsive and scattered.
9. Teach children how to just be. In addition to too much stuff, many children today don’t know how to just be. Institute a quiet time during the day or evening so they can see you just being. Read together instead of watching television. Stop games or videos in the car. Have your children learn the value of looking at the trees and animals, scenery, and just being with you talking as you drive. Give them time to unplug and have unconstructive time. Adults need it but so do children.
Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information and to receive her FREE Ebook “Easy Money – 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui” visit www.redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant!
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